Alchemy Love Coaching:
Transforming insight into embodied change so that real, lasting intimacy becomes possible
Feeling stuck in your love life?
High-performers are rewarded for being composed, analytical, and self-reliant. Those traits are great for your career, but might be keeping you stuck when it comes to love.
“Stuck” might look like:
You keep asking some version of: “Why are relationships so hard for me?” or “Why aren’t relationships working out for me?”
Under relational stress, you become someone you don’t love: defensive, avoidant, controlling, self-sacrificing, or shut down.
You’ve done talk therapy (or plenty of self-work) and you understand the why, but you’re still stuck in the same patterns.
If you’re partnered, you feel disconnected or are stuck in dynamics that don’t serve you or your relationship.
If you’re dating, you can’t figure out why it isn’t translating into real partnership.
You want intimacy, but closeness triggers old stuff - core wounds, fear, or shame.
If any of this sounds like you, you’re in the right place.
If you’re feeling stuck, it’s a pattern - and patterns can change.
What changes when you do this work?
This work increases your capacity for healthy, fulfilling relationships so you can stop repeating the same patterns and build real, lasting intimacy.
Clients often experience:
More connection and less conflict (and faster repair when things go sideways)
Less stress and anxiety in relationships
Increased capacity for real intimacy through self-awareness and relational skill development
Increased self-confidence and more trust in themselves
More faith that love can actually work
Pride and excitement about how they show up in love
A paradigm shift in how they view relationships: relationships become a home for personal growth (and, if you’re into it, spiritual growth)
Deeper and more fulfilling relationships
Feeling empowered to create the relationships they desire
Hi, I’m Anie (“aw-nee”)
I help self-aware, high-performers who feel stuck in their relationships stop repeating the same patterns and transform the way they relate so that real intimacy becomes possible.
I spent over a decade as a corporate attorney in venture capital and tech. I know what it’s like to succeed in your career but struggle in love, because I’ve been there.
After years of feeling stuck, I realized I couldn’t think my way out of it. I needed to show up differently if I wanted different results. I faced the hard truth: how I show up in relationships is my identity under pressure - and it was time to evolve that identity so I could do intimacy, even when it was hard. That shift is what made a conscious, deeply intentional partnership possible for me, and it’s what I help my clients build the capacity to create and sustain.
I left law to guide others along this path because I believe this is the real work: relationships as a practice and a path of transformation. I’m trained in the Somatica Method, which means we don’t just talk about change, we practice it. Together, we translate what is happening in your body, your emotions, and your patterns, into real-life shifts in how you communicate, connect, take accountability, and stay present when it matters.
What We’ll Work On
In 1:1 coaching, you’ll learn to:
Stay present under emotional pressure (instead of shutting down, disappearing, or getting defensive)
Communicate clearly without over-explaining, withdrawing, or defaulting to control
Shift the identity-level patterns driving conflict, disconnection, and repetition
Build capacity for closeness, conflict, desire, and repair
We’re not collecting insights and hoping your relationships magically change. We’re changing the identity-level patterns underneath your behavior using somatic awareness, practical skill-building, and real-time practice in how you show up.
What you can expect:
Embodied work so your nervous systems stops hijacking you
Accountability without shame so insights turn into transformation
Language for what you actually feel so you can communicate with clarity and kindness
Real-time practice in how you show up so new responses become natural under pressure
The Outcome: you become someone who can create trust, handle conflict, and sustain intimacy.
If you’re ready to shift your patterns…
This is what becomes possible:
Real intimacy that stays even when things get hard
Connection that lasts beyond the honeymoon phase
A clearer sense of who you are and how you want to show up
More confidence, steadiness, and pride in the way you love
A relationship that feels deeper, more connected, and more fulfilling
Let’s get started.
If this resonates, let’s talk.
If you’re ready to stop repeating the patterns and start building the capacity for real intimacy, book an intro call now.
We’ll talk about what’s going on for you, get a feel for one another, and decide if working together makes sense.
My 1:1 coaching practice is primarily focused on men at this time. If you’re not a man and this work is calling to you, you’re welcome to book an intro call and we’ll see if we’re a fit.